Earlier in life, perhaps, expectations are something that has brought so much pain to me. Keeping expectations from myself,my parents, friends,close relatives and so on. When those weren’t met I was deeply hurt and maybe I still feel so, sometimes.

I strongly believe that they are mere product of our imagination and its always about what we want in our life but we all know that things dont always go as planned. It is important that we accept whatever comes our way.

Expectations are like hidden rocks in your path-all they do is trip you up.

-Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni

Expectations are evil they give us happiness for a certain time period. Even if things do turn out as expected the happiness we get from it is short term, maybe it is good to expect sometimes so that we push our boundaries,step out of our comfort zones but at the end of the day we want results if that doesn’t come as expected one might feel burdened which leads to disappointment.

When I expected something from someone and if it didn’t happen my way, I felt something change inside me and that part of me was never the same again. So, inorder to keep myself safe and serene I adapted a habit to guard myself from constant scrutiny that was caused to me because of expectations!! I started to slowly avoid keeping them (something’s cant be changed overnight. It takes time!) Instead I just hoped.

As humans we have a this in-built tendency to expect from our life and people around us. It gets difficult to not-expect. So, I discovered a new technique, to expect the worse so that on the other hand I could find acceptance. Rather than being on cloud nine which wasnt a reality yet , I know it hurts bad when you fall on face.

Let me know in the comments what is your take on this? Do you like to expect or have found new method to avoid keeping expectations? I would love to know!

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